I don’t know what it is, but there’s a lot of “smartypants people saying smartypants things” hanging in the air.
It started yesterday, when I was talking to someone about this blog, and how I feel bad for not updating it with outfits and stuff more regularly… and that I’d love to write more on here, but that I’m always worried that everyone will think my writing is stupid, and so on. And she told me to go ahead and do it anyway, and to not let insecurities hold me back. It’s not exactly new advice, but it’s excellent advice nonetheless – and it never hurts to hear it again every once and a while.
Then just now I had a conversation about self image, and letting go of control. I have this thing where I’m afraid of letting my guard down for fear of how I will be judged by the world. As long as I’m in control, I can decide for myself who sees what. Letting go of that control means to stop hiding behind a wall and really truly show myself. That opens me up for judgement and negativity. Ofcourse it also also opens me up for amazing experiences and wonderful people crossing my life… So I should really just go for it, shouldn’t I?
At the end of the day, I’m really my own harshest critic. It’s so easy for me (and for a lot of people, I think) to worry about what people think and question if I’m good enough (whatever that means). But enough of that already. I’m just going to go for it. Be my own biggest supporter. Open up. Tear the wall down.
What does that mean for now?
Well, basically, there will be a bit of rambling going on (see all words above :p) every now and then, about random things happening in my life or in the world around me. I’ll continue posting outfits and modeling stuff and fashionthings, ofcourse, no worries! Just adding a glimpse of my soul on top of that. Easy peasy.
I didn’t realize how much of my wardrobe was vintage (or old secondhand) until I started posting outfits. Since then, I’ve gotten a lot of question on where to find certain items or how to shop for vintage stuff, so I thought I’d share my tips with you :).
Always try everything on: it’s about shape, not about size
A very important rule for shopping in general, but definitely when shopping vintage! You never know how something will look on you until you try it on. Sizing was often different in different decades, so don’t let the sizelabels guide you too much and focus on shape. A skirt that once fit on the hips may very well fit like a glove on your waist, a tunic that is too big may be the cutest mini-dress, man’s oversized pants may be an excellent boyfriend jeans, and so on. If it fits right and looks great, it really doesn’t matter what size it is.
Stay true to your style, don’t let bargains distract you
Sometimes you can find really awesome pieces at an amazing price… but don’t let the price fool you! If it’s really not your style, don’t buy it. It will just hang in your closet forever without ever being worn, and that’s such a shame. Beautiful clothes are meant to be seen, so if it’s not your style; leave it for someone else to enjoy.
Check out the men’s department
For nice tailoring, it’s always a good idea to check out the men’s clothes as well. Especially for shirts, blazers and pants, but you can also find some really cute accessories.
Remember that clothes can be altered or updated
I know there are people out there who think vintage clothes are a sanctity and should not be altered, but I’m not one of them. So when you’re out vintageshopping, remember that skirts can be shortened, buttons can be replaced, dresses can be taken in, fabrics can be dyed and shoulder pads can be taken out. If there’s an item you love that can be altered, don’t be afraid to go for it an truly make it your own.
Take your time
Vintage shops tend to have a lot of stuff, which can be quite overwhelming. Don’t go vintageshopping in a hurry; take your time to go passed each rack and collect items on the way.
Nothing in your size? Hit the accessories!
I always think it’s such a pity when women with a bigger size avoid all shops that don’t have clothes in their size. Vintage shops usually have a great collection of accessories, everything from jewellery to bags to scarfs to sunglasses to belts to shoes (especially for those with smaller feet). It’salways worth paying a visit, even when you think they don’t have anything in your size!