The term ’plus size model’ needs to retire. Are they not just MODELS. Period! We don’t label ’plus sized actresses’ or ’plus sized singers’
Fashion Model Coco Rocha tweeted about the term “plus size model”. I couldn’t agree with her more!
My biggest fashion dream is diversity. How wonderful would it be to see all types of great models, working side by side… different ages, different ethnicities, different sizes. Where it’s no longer about having a certain size, but about your look and what you bring to the table as a model.
Me: WHAT? Are you blind? You mean these chubby sticks? Look at this flabby bit on the side here! I look like one of those squirrels with wings; if they dropped me out of an airplane I could probably fly my way to safety with these saddlebags! And don’t get me started on my flabby knees, yuck! If they get any flabbier I will have to start using tape just to keep them in the right place. And have you seen my calves? The hulk is jealous of them! He’s calling me every day to ask me what workout I do to get them so big and manly! Nono, you’re insane, I really don’t have nice legs. Your legs are super pretty though!
Okay, I admit, the situation above is slightly exaggerated, but not as much as I would have liked it to be. A lot of women have troubles accepting a compliment without starting a lecture on why the compliment is completely not true. And it’s not just bodies, either. Remember last time someone sad something nice about your outfit, and you were all like “oh, thanks… It’s really old,I got it on sale somewhere, it was supercheap but it does a good job of hiding my fat thighs”?Exactly.
Is it possible that a couple of thousands of years ago, there was a REALLY hot cavewoman who had a geneticdysfunction that made it impossible for her to receive compliments? But because she was hot, everyone wanted to be with her, so she had a bunch of babies and her genetic material got spread out over the globe and now there’s about a billion women who are genetically incapable of receiving a compliment? Something like that?
Or maybe we just find it hard to believe that someone honestly, genuinely likes something about us (what are the odds, right?). Or we’re afraid they’ll think we’re arrogant and self-obsessed if we accept it.
I say we all break this circle! Whenever someone compliments you, resist the urge to start saying something negative. I mean it. It doesn’t make you look modest, it doesn’t make you cool. It’s just really annoying. And you’re punishing the person who tried to compliment you with your behavior. They were trying to make you feel better, but instead they now have to deal with this insecure person with verbal diarrhea going on and on about how they hate their forehead.
Don’t go overboard either: “yes, thanks, I love my legs too! They are so fabulous, I could just stare at them all day! Would you like to touch them? Come on, you know you want to!”. Just take a deep breath, smile, and say thanks. And fight the urge to give the obligatory same-compliment response “thanks, you too”, if you don’t mean it. There’s nothing more awkward than blurting out “thanks, I love your outfit too” before you notice they’re wearing crocs and a t-shirt that says “the future Ms. Bieber”. Keep it real!